Welcome!

I’m glad you’re here.

I created this site to help women find the loving support they need to navigate the difficult journey of supporting a spouse with combat related trauma.

I’m working to make this a safe place where you’ll find resources, and safe, confidential support groups, where we gather to share and to listen. And in doing so, we begin to feel seen and heard again. Soon, some of the loneliness begins to fade. Being the wife of a combat veteran is challenging. Often, it’s a one-step-at-a-time, one-day-at-a-time, and even one-breath-at-a-time,adventure.

Our support groups meet in Melbourne, Florida weekly. You can start at any time. They are ongoing. We hope you will join. We know how difficult it can be to find a group and also to show up for the first time. So I’d like to meet you either in person, or online so that you can ask questions to see if this is right for you.

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A little about me.

I’m the former wife of a combat veteran. My husband served in an elite special forces team in Afghanistan, in addition to other danger zones around the globe. I know what it’s like to feel alone while taking care of children and the home front during multiple deployments. I know the stress that often comes after deployments, and the strain on marriages and family life due to PTSD. I found hope and healing through my walk with Christ, through churches I attended, and through support groups for women who were dealing with the aftermaths of war trauma on their husbands or partners, commonly known as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

After moving to Brevard County, Florida, I looked for support groups like the ones that provided a lifeline for me back in my home state of Washington. When I didn’t find anything, I decided to launch this site to help other women like me. As wives of combat veterans, we often feel alone, eclipsed by our husband’s service, deployments, and lives. When they return, rightly so, there is a great amount of support and many resources for combat veterans, but few resources for wives and families. We also often feel like we don’t fit in with other women in our churches, communities, or in our work. Due to our husband’s struggles with PTSD and the disruptions that military life brings, we are all too often isolated and alone.

I want to help women break out of the isolation so they can find hope and healing.

I also offer a Writing to Heal from Trauma Workshop, which will be launching soon.

For me, writing has been my way back, a way of learning, a way of healing.  As much as I wish I could, I can’t give you a “ten-step program” or a handy checklist or a toolkit or a blueprint for healing trauma, that promises “success,” but I can invite you on a journey towards healing. Healing, especially from trauma, is a journey, one of ups and downs, starts and stops. Just when you think you’ve got it, something seems to throw a wrench in the plan.  Often, sharing our stories and inviting others to join in our journey is healing. Healing after all is an active verb, not a snap of the fingers.

Writing has always been essential to my life. It’s been a survival tool, a way to problem solve and often make something from difficult situations.

Maybe it’s because I have lived through so many tough times that I resonate so strongly with a special flower I discovered, one birthed out of trauma. That’s why you’ll see the wild, resilient Fynbos flowers of South Africa, sprinkled around this site. These amazing flowers give us hope because they survive and thrive after a fire. They are called fire ephemerals, and are part of a group of plant species which rely on fire in order to propagate, and to thrive.

I hope you’ll join us here.